Flirt with Flava

Date: August 10, 2006
Location: Club, West Loop, Chicago, IL
Players: me + 10+ wings + 1 pivot

Tonight there was a party at this club in the warehouse district for Lavalife.
Free drinks, a little watered down. Pretty stylish club, although a little yuppie. The lair guys were there, including some new guys I've never met before. And the usual players: JCB, Effect, Jaydog. Effect brought along a new pivot girl, ProducerGirl, who Jaydog seemed to have taken a liking to. He had his arm around her tonight and number closed her, although Effect had to push him to do it.

I did 8 approaches. A couple of them were decent, which is good. A couple were total blowouts - didn't seem to phase me much, which is also good, I just kept approaching and having a good time, it might have been the free booze, though. I keep waiting for another big 'aha!' moment to happen in my sarging, I've had several, but I've realized that a lot of my development is also really gradual. My calibration of energy level during night game, being comfortable around new people and large crowds, incorporation of relaxed body language and smiling into my game - these all have been very gradual, and are still in progress. I am definitely stuck at a certain level right now, although I can feel like I'm gradually breaking through. I'll just keep going, try to be self correcting, research as much as I can, focus on my inner game and not comparing myself to others, and get out in the field as much as possible.

Anyway, this club was pretty hip. Mental note to check out 'Reserve', it may be the hippest bar in town, but I have a feeling it may be a little too yuppie. Even the lair guys were saying the bitch shields were up last night, pretty surprising for an event sponsored by an online dating site where everyone is supposed to be single. But then again, these are online girls. Reminds me of why I gave up online girls, they're all crazy.

APPROACH 1:
Started chatting up an HB7 latina chick, I lay the usual routines on her, she seemed preoccupied. Some vibing. I make it to A3 with her, semi long set - but then some big bald dude steps up and hands her a drink. Why the hell are people coming to a singles mixer with their SO's? I bail.

APPROACH 2:
HB8 brunette, made some comment about the free vodka at the bar, got lost in the crowd after a few lines. This place was too damn loud, huge crowd at the bar.

APPROACH 3:
Longest, best set of the night. HB8 huge rack. Long set - maybe 15-20 minutes, I kept detaching and coming back. Vibing, had her laughing, kinoing and some verbal IOI's ('where you from?' 'you seem smart' etc.) At least my sets are getting longer. Felt totally relaxed. Made a few mistakes - I ignored the friend. She had some blonde chick with her that I totally ignored. Of course a few lair guys came up to me and tried to merge, and they preoccupied the blonde. The third time I reapproached the two were alone, and were a little feisty after about 4 lair guys in a row had approached, some not so smoothly, I started to get attitude, and my lines were falling flat. I detach, thinking maybe I'll reattach later - but then I couldn't find them later on in the night, they must have left.

APPROACH 4:
Two biatches. HB8ish brunettes. I approach and they kind of wave me away/walk away. I just laugh at this type of crap now. Stupid online hoochies.

APPROACH 5:
I open an HB6 blonde with two black friends, some vibing. I probably could have continued this, they seemed pretty into me - kinoing and vibing and whatnot. But upon closer inspection, they seemed beat. Jaydog comes in and starts laying his lines on them, I eject cos I didn't want to get stuck with these three.

APPROACH 6:
Effect dares me to approach these two blonde hoochie mamas in expensive dresses. I get the total brush off after my initial opener - screw em. Just another brick in my palace.

APPROACH 7:
While Jaydog is getting brutally blown out by these two totally mediocre brunette chicks, I decide to approach an HB7 blonde in the immediate vicinity. I make a joke about how she must be a part of the break dancing crew, I had her laughing pretty good with some jokes. I'm becoming a bit of a smartass out in the field, that's pretty cool. Then some nerd guy comes in and starts AMOG'ing me, probably her boyfriend. Whatevah. Again, why are couples coming to a singles mixer? Free booze.

APPROACH 8:
I approach this MILFy looking latina chick with dyed blonde hair. I know she is there with a dude, cos I saw her dancing with this black guy most of the night, but I figure what the hell. She looked ok, we talked about restaurants and clubs, what country she's from in South America, I lay the myspace routine on her, and neg her - nice hair, is it a wig? She detaches, I think to go hang with the aforementioned black dude.

JCB takes off with the lair dudes to the Fulton Lounge, we drive ProducerGirl home, then go to some diner, ogle some DePaul hotties, and formulate our plan to rock Style Life again. I was telling John last night that everything's becoming a blur. I'm at work right now and I feel completely hung over. I can't trust myself when I'm not completely cognizant like this. I have to be aware of and compensate for my tendency to be overly paranoid and to assume the worst. I'm just floating through the day, we're going to hit some galleries tonight and then tomorrow I have to stand up at my nephew's baptism. That girl Jane is going to be there.

140 Approaches