Coffee Shop Chick + Drive-by Bullshit

Date: July 28, 2006

Location: Coffee Shop, Wicker Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


This is actually an older approach that I haven't posted yet. utahPlayboy on mASF irc told me 'hired guns do not count!'. perd on mASF irc told me that this one counts, so I don't know who to believe. I did not know that this was a carved in stone rule, so I will post this approach and not post my hired gun approaches anymore, unless I lay them or they're HB strippers.

I walk up to the counter at this coffee shop and order a large decaf. There is an HB7 metal chick with a lip piercing at the counter, looking bored out of her skull. She starts pouring the coffee into a ceramic mug. I decide to try to replicate my 7-11 chick pickup routine on her - I smile mischievously and hold EC for an unnaturally long time. She smiles at me and eventually looks down. It is working again.

me: Oh, can I get it in a paper cup?
HB7 metal chick: Yeah sure. (smiling)
me: I usually get it in a to go glass so you guys don't have to wash dishes later.
HB7: It's no big deal, we're really slow today.
me: (it's a new place, just opened) How's business been?
HB7: It's been really slow.
me: Hey those are awesome tattoos.
HB7: Aw thanks. I drew them myself.
me: Yeah they're traditional but they're still unique. So you do tattoos?
HB7: No I got them at XXX - there's this chick there name XXX that does good work.
me: What's that one. (pointing, kino)
HB7: Oh that one was messed up - there's blurring here. I'm going to get it covered up.
me: What are you going to put there?
HB7: I want to cover it up with this design - (she pulls out a sketchbook with some type of tribal sh*t)
me: You going to the same place?
HB7: No I'm going to the Tattoo Factory in Uptown.
me: That's close to me - did you see they moved?
HB7: Yeah, their new location is a lot nicer.
me: Yeah their old place looked really seedy. I was looking for tattoo shops online, and theirs had the best artwork.
HB7: Yeah check out XXX. She's really good.
HB7: What are you going to get?
me: You know that group Led Zeppelin? I'm going to get that guy with wings done with a lot of detail and color on my back, or arm maybe.
HB7: That sounds nice.

-convo continues: about how sometimes band tattoos are a bad idea, my friend who got a Pearl Jam tattoo on his calf and now regrets it, how her ex got a Sepultura tattoo on his stomach. I made her laugh a couple times. I detach, drink my coffee and surf the internet a little. I come back to the counter about an hour later and order some food.

I start talking to her about how I am going around trying out all of the coffee shops in the city with free wireless internet, and how theirs is by far the best, smoothest coffee - it's actually the truth and not a line. Then I start asking her about the vegetarian menu, and about their vegetarian breads and how they make them. She offers me samples of their pastries. I start talking about her lip piercings. I find out that she is part owner or mangager (something like that?) of the place.

I get my food and hang out for a while, surfing the internet. A half hour or so later I decide to leave and walk up to the counter again on my way out. I tell her that the food was excellent and that I thoroughly enjoyed it there. She asks my name. "Hi I'm nonchalant", we shake hands. "I'm HB7 metal chick". This is where I should have SBAP'd. She gives me an IOI: "I hope to see you back here again". I'll be back. As I'm walking out the door she calls out "byeeee" fairly loudly.

Key points:
Convo was fairly natural, hardly any nervousness. Probably due mostly to the hired gun factor and the fact we were talking about things that were dear to my heart - namely, tattoos, bands, and coffee. I am learning the value of cutting a set off at a high point, then returning to it later on to build it up even more. Good use of kino. Good body language, good DHV.

Work on:
SBAP. I did not SBAP, mainly because I'm fairly sure I have found my favorite wireless coffee shop (and my favorite coffee shop barrista), and at the time I was thinking I didn't want to mess that up. I'm kind of regretting the lack of SBAP. If I got dogged then I would have a hard time going back there, and I want to go back there again. I have been thinking about how I'm going to go back and either a) work this HB again and SBAP or b) work her again and make her my pivot so that I can take dates there and have social proof. Still I deserve to be chastised for my lack of SBAP. No negs, not very much C+F.


Date: July 2, 2006

Location: Gas Station, Lakeview, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I wake up, throw on a hat, and drive down to the gas station on my way to the gym, to grab a cup of coffee and fill up the tank. When I get there, I find out that they are out of coffee and all they have is the stuff in the capuccino machines. There are 8 flavors of capuccino, I'm standing there trying to decide which one to get - I choose the one that says 'extra caffeine'. I notice that there is an HB7 blonde behind me, waiting for me to finish filling up my cup. I turn around, smile and try to get some EC.

me: hi
HB7: (smiles)

I finish filling up my cup and walk over to where the sugar is. She starts filling up her cup.

me: Hi.
(she turns around)
me: Do you have to put sugar in these?
HB7: No. They're pretty sweet.
me: Yeah. I've never gotten these before.

I was about to ask her if she's ever gotten the Horchata flavor when some dude walks up and starts talking to her. I abort.

Work on:
It was early, I looked like sh*t. I guess I could have 'engaged the group' and been like 'so how do you two know each other?' but I didn't feel like it.


Date: July 2, 2006

Location: Lakeview, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I was out running, I'm walking now during my cool down phase. A little up the sidewalk an HB7 black hottie with a huge afro is walking towards me. I look like sh*t and am sweating bullets. Not my best look, but I figure maybe she is turned on by male sweat. I was wrong.

me: hi (definitely loud enough to hear, even with all the traffic going by)
HB7 black chick: (no EC, keeps walking)

Some drunk dudes in a Camaro drive by, blasting the hip hop. They shout some sh*t to me because they saw me say hi to her. I realize that they were probably shouting sh*t out the window to the HB7 when she was up the street a little bit. I hear them start to shout sh*t at her behind me. So these dudes ruined it for me.

Another brick in my castle.

Too old match.com chick, number close HB9's

It's been an interesting weekend so far. Some chick on match.com messaged me, and then started calling me all the time. She wanted to hook up last night but I was already out when I got her call. I have some more approaches to post, including some positive results finally - but I'm still writing them up. This chick is starting to call a lot though, it's a turn off - too bad because I was semi interested a couple of days ago. It seems like an easy hook up though, about an HB6/7. But she seriously might be crazy stalker material.

I just had my second # close and best set yet. Mama mia, hot hot hot girls, 2 HB9's, I want to touch my pee pee just thinking about them. I'm really close to saying - f*ck online game. It's bullshyt. Will post more FR's in a bit.

Gaming a cop, more hardcore street sarges

Date: June 30, 2006

Location: Hyde Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I tried to open a female cop. She was short and stocky, I couldn't see her face very well due to her hat and her dark glasses, but her booty was looking solid. Brunette, about a 7 from what I could tell. Pretty good for a female in her profession. I spotted her behind me in line at the gas station. I figured what the heck.

me: So you guys gonna be busy this weekend?
HBcop: (eyes me warily, like a coiled jungle cat) um, yeah.
me: You going to be working the Taste of Chicago?
HBcop: no.
me: I went last year, that was crazy.
HBcop: Yeah, I try to stay away from there.
me: There were so many people last year, it took forever to walk anywhere.
HBcop: I haven't gone there in years.
me: So you work mainly around here?
HBcop: Yeah Hyde Park mainly. Campus.
...

Set lasted 2 mins max. It's my turn to pay. She goes back into hardass mode. I pussed out and didn't try to close her or anything. Was I really going to ask a cop for her phone number? I guess I could have, but it's a little more intimidating when the target is packing a .357 magnum.

Work on:
SBAP. This wasn't a serious set, but just on principle. SBAP.


Date: June 30, 2006

Location: Ukranian Village, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I'm walking down the street looking for this wine bar where my wine class is being held. I walk past this HB8 short hair blonde girl walking her dog, this huge mean looking thing. I make some EC and smile. She says 'hi' to me first, I say hi back and it's on.

HB8 w dog: hi
me: hi
...
me: Cool dog.
HB8: Thanks.
me: What kind of dog?
HB8: Boxer pit bull mix.
me: Oh cool.
HB8: (dog pulls her around) whoa.
me: hehe strong dog.
HB8: Yeah. He's a sweet heart though.
(dog growls at me)
me: I'll take your word for it.
HB8: He's a sweetheart.
me: So where did you get it?
HB8: Oh I got it from the humane society?
me: Really - I heard that when you get dogs from the humane society sometimes they have psychological or health problems.
HB8: Yeah I heard that, but we haven't had any problems...

-really long set ensues. About 10 minutes. We talked about: dogs, pit bulls, how pit bulls and rots aren't allowed in my apartment building, how much exercise her dog requires, the difference between Ukranian Village and Wicker Park, different places in the city she's lived, restaurants in the area, all kinds of crap. I did 'body rock', and 'time constraints' for the first time ever - 'well I gotta get going soon, late for my class'. I tried to play it off like I was lost too, I don't know why I keep doing the 'excuse me do you know how to get to?' routine.

So I decide to SBAP (stop. being. a. *****.) - and try to close.

me: So, you wanna get some coffee sometime?
HB8: (smiles widely) nah, I don't even like coffee.
(as if it's even about coffee, whatever)
me: Ok. Have a good day.
HB8: bye.
me: bye.

Key points:
Convo was good, some nervous body language but I did manage to position my body so I wasn't directly facing her. Starting to get the nervousness under control.

Work on:
I thought I was getting IOI's from this one, she definitely said hi first and gave me a lot of EC and smiling. Maybe she is living with someone, who knows. I would have done the 'can I play with your dog routine' except her dog was a vicious looking pit bull who was growling at me the whole time. I didn't use a canned opener, should've. I didn't neg, I have a difficult time working negs into the conversation. No C+F. Maybe if I worked it a little more I could have got the close. Closing on the street is tough to work into the convo smoothly.


Date: July 2, 2006

Location: Lincoln Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


Aborted, badly planned cold street approach. I should really get my directions straight before attempting the 'excuse me can you tell me how to get to?' routine.

I'm walking to this restaurant and a very hot and milfy HB9 artsy chick, scantily dressed in leopard print, is walking towards me. Step one foot back, put on my casual face, and open.

me: hi
HB9 milf: hi
me: Do you know this place Argo Tea?
HB9: No, never heard of it.
me: yeah I've been walking around looking for it for 20 minutes.
HB9: What street is it on?
me: It's on Armitage. Do you know how to get to Armitage?
HB9: um, we're on Armitage.
me: (looks up) well I'll be.

-I thank her and abort. I look like an idiot. Have to plan this **** out better. She didn't seem very friendly anyways.

Quote from Mastering Your Hidden Self, A Guide to the Huna Way: Study Guide

“Determination, an unswerving will, is actually the continuous, conscious directing of attention and
awareness toward a given end for a purpose. And this is accomplished by continuously renewing the
decisions or choices made to reach the given end, in spite of apparent obstacles and difficulties. A person with such a will, that is, such an ability to keep renewing a decision, does not get discouraged by mistakes, and failures. If one method used to reach his goal does not work after repeated tries, he tries another, and then another, until he finds one that does work, even if it means he has to change himself. A person with so-called ‘weak will’ is simply someone who uses the same conscious will power that everyone has to change his mind about continuing toward a goal. In other words, he just makes a different decision, a decision not to continue, while the first person makes a decision to continue”

King of my castle

Well no masturbation is pretty tough, but I'm going to try it again starting today. I'm also going to quit smoking again starting today - which is going to be difficult since I am at the bars a lot nowadays.

Really good breakdown of the Mystery Method

Really good breakdown of the Mystery Method

http://attraction-chronicles.blogspot.com/2005/10/mystery-method-2-approach.html

I am becoming more sane

Disorder	Rating
Paranoid:	High
Schizoid:	Moderate
Schizotypal:	Moderate
Antisocial:	Low
Borderline:	Moderate
Histrionic:	Moderate
Narcissistic:	Moderate
Avoidant:	High
Dependent:	High
Obsessive-Compulsive:	High
-- Personality Disorder Test -- -- Personality Disorder Information --

-I took this test a year ago, and I scored either High or Very High in every category. Therapy seems to be working. I should be relatively well adjusted in a year or so.